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Professional Overhaul: The 5 Items You Should Have In Your Closet for Dressing Business Professional

Let’s get real: As much as we hate to submit to traditional corporate rules, “dressing the part,” can play a huge role in our success at a company or firm. It can determine if you get another interview. If your superior puts you up for a special project or promotion. If a client will trust you to get the job done. And, it can indicate  if you’re  trustworthy or not. The majority of communication between people is nonverbal, so it is important that your appearance speaks to the role that you’re trying to obtain.

I personally subscribe to the old adage that “If you look good then you’ll feel good.” So, I think that our generation, the much loved and hated millennials, have immense potential, but the fact remains that we need to showcase it. We have to showcase  it in our work ethic, our passion, and in our willingness to play the career game by dressing for the part. There are many individuals in hiring positions that come from a generation of conservative leanings and so, in order to bridge that gap we must dress the part.

Here are the top 5 clothing items you should own as a young professional


  • Black blazer


This item is a staple and should be in your wardrobe if it already isn’t. Black is always classic and acceptably stylish.  And, you can get so much value and use out of this item. For example, you can dress it up with a skirt or pants and turn it into a suit for business professional settings. Pair it with a dress, with denim, or with a skirt for business casual and other everyday looks. You can find this piece in any store and at a variety of price points. But a word of advice: Spend the money on a nice quality one because you’ll certainly get your money’s worth.


  • Dress or suit


Buy a dress or pants/skirt to create an outfit that makes you feel confident and mature. It can’t hurt your chances to look completely poised and polished despite the fact that you may be sweating bullets or nervously fidgeting while trying to emphasize how you’re a qualified candidate.


  • Professional and comfortable shoes


Invest in some durable, comfortable, closed toed shoes. Style-wise, closed toed is a great option for all seasons and once again suitable for a conservative workplace or industry. In terms of comfort, quality does matter because you will hate yourself and cause unnecessary pain and suffering if you go the cheap route. So, really consider how much mobility or walking your position requires and adjust accordingly. Also, no one can freaking tell (or will care really) if you’re re-wearing a pair of shoes.


  • Dress shirts in short or long sleeve (depending on climate or season)


You definitely need to wear something underneath that black blazer or suit you’ve purchased. For greatest versatility, stick to neutral colors or business colors so you can mix and match with ease. Often they’re on-sale in several options and shades, but learn your workplace dress code before you splurge on a bright color or bold pattern. My suggestion for sizing is something that is fitted, i.e. snug enough so that it has a shape without looking sloppy, but may also look good not tucked into pants or a skirt. You should also be able to gesture and move as if you were presenting, so you’re physically most comfortable and thus projecting that comfort into confidence.


  • Professional bag or briefcase


It’s 2016, so this means women and men can carry anything from a briefcase to a satchel. If you’re like me and manage to have too much stuff for a typical purse or bag, do yourself a favor and invest in a nice large tote. There are so many stylish and affordable options that is if you’re willing to research, budget, and spring when the  price is right. Also, nothing looks more unprofessional and frankly immature than not having a place to keep papers (i.e. resume or portfolio), your phone, keys, tablet, laptop, snack, wallet or anything else tidy. Stick to a neutral, simple two tone, or a solid color to avoid looking busy and drawing the eye in a distracting manner. I would also recommend purchasing a bag that has metal grommets to increase the bag’s longevity.

Stay tuned for a list of places to purchase quality professional clothing on a budget!

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Sex and Natural Hair

Tablets, cream, ointments, herbs, mixtures and even onions! These are some of the measures a natural girl can go through to stimulate hair growth.

All the above mentioned methods stand a strong ground.. But what if there was an even more natural way, another practice, another technique which didn’t require inventing formulas and concoctions!


To what extent are you willing to go in order to naturally stimulate your hair growth?

There is a way which can take place in the privacy of your own bedroom.

Yes, you said it!


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Research shows the hormonal connections between a regular healthy sex lifestyle and hair growth.

Regular sex influences the production of sex hormones such as androgens, which influence hair growth, and endorphins, a feel-good neurotransmitter that impacts both body, mind and soul subsequently promoting healthy hair growth!

A  scalp massage could have done the trick, but you would agree that sex is much more fun! Sexual activity gets your blood flowing, especially near the skin’s surface. In physiological response hair follicles receive more oxygenation and more nourishment ensuring ideal conditions for growth.

Regular sex is an option worth adding to your daily hair routine. But don’t be carried away. Too much of everything may have some unfavourable effects. Too much sexual activity can lead to the unhealthy over-production of testosterone and adrenaline, leading to possible hair loss, especially in men!


Nevertheless, regular sex a is a very justifiable hair growth stimulator. So ladies, it’s time to get our groove and go 200% natural!



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Don’t Fear The Fall: Rise Up& Attack (Motivation)

We often get caught in a downward swirl. Nothing seems to work out as planned, obstacles keep popping up in the least expected moments and it looks as though all forces stand against us. In such scenarios, we give up when the going gets tough.


Fortunately, many renowned personalities remind us that there is no failure except in no longer trying.

But why do some of us fail in the pursuit of dreams and aspirations? Why don’t things work out even when we try? There are a few factors to take into consideration.

  1. Lack of well-defined purpose of life. Not knowing exactly what you want to achieve will get you turning round in circles with no concrete aim to work towards.
  2. Sometimes we do know what we want to achieve, but lack ambition–will-power and self-discipline to move forward without sacrifice. Nothing comes easy and sacrificing is a part of the process which gets us closer to our goal.
  3. That leads us to persistence. You may be a good starter, enthusiastic and zealous, but being a bad finisher is a trait which will keep you stagnant.
  4. Fear stops majority of us from trying to achieve our goals.  Fear of poverty, criticism, taking risks and failing, keep us in our comfort zone and just like it implies, we stay in the same place with little progress.
  5. According to our society, it is seen as credible to become a doctor, a lawyer or any profession of high status. Very often we choose the wrong profession and become somebody we are not. This is a perfect recipe to unhappiness, indifference and dormancy.

If you are going through some tough moments in life, it is time to sit up and get your act together. We are the creators of how we live our lives through the choices we make. No excuses. Take responsibility. Define your purpose of life! Discipline yourself! Be a good finisher! Do not fear the fall, catch the wind and you shall fly! Follow your heart and passion and everything else should naturally fall into place!

Be inspired!



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Naturally Curly’s: Tips/Products to Strengthen Your Edges


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Written By: Ashley Glenn


Hey Family!

I was checking out, and I came across this amazing article on ways to treat thinning edges.  Check it out and let me know what you think!



Thinning edges can be a traumatic experience, especially when you are not sure of how to treat them. Thinning edges can be caused by hairstyles that pull the hair too tight, constant friction on the edges, and improper hair care practices. It can be quite frustrating, but it does not have to be any longer. Below you will find eight temple treatments that will help to restore your edges.


Eden BodyWorks Peppermint Temple Balm
This temple balm will provide your hair with moisture and hold, while making your edges stronger. Peppermint oil is formulated in this balm to stimulate the scalp. If you want a treatment that will protect your hair and help smooth your edges, this is a good choice.


SheaMoisture Jamaican Black Castor Oil Strength, Grow, & Restore Edge Treatment
The organic shea butter is included to retain the hair’s moisture and Jamaican black castor oil is included to repair the hair. This product has a jelly-like consistence, which stands out from usual edge treatments. No flaking or crust here.


Organic Root Stimulator Fertilizing Temple Balm
Herbal extracts are included to repair thinning hair. Gently massage the product on the thinning areas. This product is a good choice that can be easily accessed in your local beauty supply and drug stores.

To view more click HERE


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Ab Attack: Workout of the Week

You can do it in the car. You can do it in the bar – even on a (red dwarf) star!

Actually, just kidding. Unfortunately, my favorite ab workout requires a little more wiggle room than a car. But it is equipment-less, making it an easy routine to do almost anywhere. You can add these exercises to your existing workout, or complete it on it’s own.

Ab Attack Workout:

Up and Down Plank for 1 minute

Allen Wells for 1 minute

 50 Bicycle Crunches

 50 Side Crunches [25 each side]

 Alternating Leg Lifts for 1 minute

 Side Plank [30 seconds each side]

 50 Butterfly Crunches

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I like to do this routine after a run, or another form of cardio. I also tweak the alternating leg lift exercise by adding crunches – when one leg is raised in the air, take your opposite elbow and raise it to the knee of your lifted leg (and vice versa). Just click the links to see videos of each exercise, and have fun sculpting those abs!

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Permed Hair Easier to Manage?

Apart from fitting into the given standard of beauty, another reason for perming our hair was making it easier to manage and maintain. Our natural course hair was capable of breaking a comb and totally unmanageable!

After 15 years of permed hair and over 5 years with natural hair, I look back in retrospect and wonder if permed hair was really easier to manage or  just an illusion passed down from generation to generation.

In order to come up with a coherent answer, I had to analize the two experiences – Permed hair VS Natural hair.

Maintaining permed hair:


  1. Roots have to be retouched at least every 3 months.  This requires going to the hair salon where you can find an experienced hairdresser. Since perming is “controlled damage” the possibilities of having your hair burnt by an amateur is pretty high.
  2. A visit to the hair salon at least once a week is required to keep your hair looking nice and sleek. That could strain your pocket in addition. But once your perm is nice and fresh, combing is made easy with finger slipping smoothly through your hair.
  3. After a fresh perm or retouch you mustn’t wash your hair within 48 hours. Washing with shampoo ( and even getting your hair wet)  can disturb the hair proteins as they are locking into their shapes in those first hours.
  4. Extra tender loving care is vital to maintain a healthy looking perm- shampooing, extra conditioning, extra oil and protein treatments. This is because perming, forcibly and permanently breaks down the protein in your hair in order to keep it straight.
  5. Permed hair is constrained to simple everyday styles without visiting the salon. There is a limited variety of things you can do in the comfort of your own home.

Maintaining natural hair:


  1. Regular visits to the hair salon aren’t necessary for a retouch or treatment and the closest you get to burning your hair is bending over the gas cooker!
  2. Natural hair doesn’t need to be washed every day. It’s enough to wash it once a week or every other week with a detangling session. Once detangled and styled, combing every day isn’t neccessary. This guarantees peace of mind throughout the whole week.
  3. Nevertheless, combing and detangling can be an ordeal! You dare not comb your kinky mane when it’s dry. It must be damp with water or leave-in conditioner and sectioned into smaller parts before attempting to comb. Running a comb through your kinks is a no-no.
  4. Protein structure is retained in natural hair. This means, regular oil treatments aren’t a must and can be done in the comfort of your own home leaving you with a few  extra pennies at the end of the month.
  5. The versatility of natural hairstyles are numerous- flat twists, twist outs, high bun, high puff, two-strand twists, frohawk and bantu knots just to mention a few. In addition, you can wear it straight, wavy or kinky curly.

I used to have a perm for over fifteen years and I had a difficult time sticking to the rules of maintenance. I guess that’s why it stayed at shoulder length and never grew beyond.

I have been natural for over five years and hardly visit the hair salon. My hair has never been this long! It’s now bra-length and still growing. Keeping my hair moisturized seemed to do the trick. In my opinion, the myth of permed hair being easier to manage has been crushed. Natural hair rules! It’s easier, cheaper and more fun to manage! What’s your take on that?

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Soul Clinic

It is said we are what we eat. We can understand this statement literally comparing the state of our body, to what we put into it. Even though they are both very much related, I would like to look at it from a slightly different perspective – Food for the soul. How do we feed our soul? What makes our soul healthy which consequently keeps us happy?



In today’s modern world with all the hustle and bustle, competition and rat race, we tend to ignore the cry of our soul which hungers.  There are 5 things you should incorporate into your daily life to quench that thirst.

It all starts from accepting and acknowledging yourself as an individual. You have your own mind, preferences and ambitions. So the last thing you want to do is follow the crowd. It’s very easy going down the stream, for he who is carried by it, need not row, but be warned, you may land in places you never wanted to. It’s much more rewarding rowing your own boat.

Smile and laugh more often. It will make you and everyone around you happy! Smiling and laughing send out positive vibes, attracting positive people and curing a multitude of ills. Keep Smiling.

Giving. It’s not about how much you give, but how much love you put into giving. We rise by giving and lifting others. Some of the most famous minds knew this:

Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” ~ Albert Einstein

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” ~ Zig Ziglar

“From what we get, we can make a living; what we give, however, makes a life.” ~ Arthur Ashe

The power of giving never disappoints.

Being caught up in the buzzing life of the city, we tend to complain about almost everything. Being grateful makes us appreciate the things most important in life and humbles the ego.

A man becomes what he constantly thinks about. So try to have a positive and determined mindset. Vibrate with positive thoughts, turn your goals into an obsession and witness your life change!


Life is a gift which should be enjoyed. Let’s not get lost by becoming  victims of the consumer society. Set your own goals, smile, give back in life, be grateful and think positive. These practices are starters which get us ready for the main course and allows us to enjoy the dessert. Food for the soul.

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Ask Felicia: Are We Over The Natural Hair Scene? #FeliciaFriday


Written By Felicia Leatherwood

I’ve been talking to several naturalist’s and bloggers and some of them are wondering what’s next for the natural hair movement?  After all it rose up so strong and proud, so some are wondering where do we go from here?
I have to be honest, when I stepped on the hairstylist scene back in 2000, natural hair was more of a trend and it wasn’t as creative as it is now.  There where more men rocking cornrows and coil out’s than women because the women were still in the “feeling sexy with a weave” state of mind, but we adored our black men with their braids and flat twist and afros.  We thought that when Allen Iverson hit the court, he was the finest thing out there and every woman who found him sexy wanted to braid his hair!
Fast forward 14years later and there is a whole community of natural hair wearers, but this time it came with a twist…not only did the women show up to say “We are not going to allow any type of product of chemical to touch our hair,” we also showed up to empower, support, send love and occasionally criticize each other!  We showed up with attitude, flare, chicness and style.
So now that most of the naturalistas have the hang of what works for their hair and they have been to all of the meet-up and chats and now have a ton of samples to choose from as well as tutorials on YouTube, Facebook and Instagram, women are asking what next?
Where do we go from here?  Well I believe some of us will be one with our natural hair and some of us won’t!   As things calm down and the smoke of excitement clears and everyone goes back to their mutual corners to look for the next best thing.  I think we will see the beauty in it all!  We will see women that just want to grow their hair no matter what they use, some women will still be product junkies, some will go back to wigs and weaves or relaxers and some will not care either way.  But mostly, I think where we are headed next is a feeling place that can’t be duplicated or taken away…something called confidence!  Out of everything the natural hair community  gave us, it was a sense of PRIDE and CONFIDENCE that we gravitated to more than anything!


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Ask Felicia: Best Way To Know Which Product Is A Friend Or A Foe



Written By Felicia Leatherwood

So, one of the main Natural Hair topics is…moisture and how to know which products work best on our natural hair so that we don’t destroy it!

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Here is a great way to listen to your hair and know what it needs.

First of all pull out of your cabinet your top four choices for conditioning and styling your hair.
Second cleanse the hair using a nice clarifying shampoo like ION’s Clarifying Shampoo and then proceed to conditioner.  Now what you want to do is divide the hair into four sections and on each section place 1 conditioner at a time.  So you will end up having a different conditioner on each section of hair.
What you are looking for in results with this way of testing your products are, softness, manageability, detangable hair and most of all moisture.  It’s better to test your products in this way, because you can compare them to each other and your hair will always let you know what it likes and doesn’t like!
You can do the same for your styling products as well.  When it comes to testing your styling products be sure to keep a little pen and pad next to you, so that you can make notes about the products you are working with.
Remember what might work for you, may not work for you friend or family member!
This tip will help you find out which products are a friend or which products have become a foe!
Have fun with your hair!


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Confessions of a Passively Devoted Natural

I was very curious as to how long it would be for me to mildly take care of my hair before my hair started showing that I was only mildly being taken care of.

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My natural hair journey began as my child, I was giving it constant attention – I mean an overabundance of attention, multiple hours daily. As life has begun to pick up and I’ve gotten busy with internships, committees, clubs, dance teams, jobs, school work, etc. it has begun hard (hard being an incredible understatement) to keep up with my hair. Even now, with it being summertime and my being home from school for the summer – I imagined a life with daily treatments, weekly deep conditions, daily co-washes etc. but I have not at all been able to achieve that. As unfortunate as it is and as much as I don’t want to believe it, I think my hair is finally suffering from the neglect it has been facing. I went from spraying water day, night and in-between to soaking it while in the shower once, sometimes twice, a day. Using leave-in conditioner everyday to sometimes throwing coconut oil in my hair after I got out of the shower.

I have hit a wall in my natural hair journey. I’m not sure what it’s from. I still love my hair so much – I wouldn’t perm it for anything in the world, I love the journey and every curl, but I just can’t find the motivation that I once had. I think my hair has stopped growing as much as it was – even though I maintain a completely healthy diet, but also shrinkage could just be getting me down.


Is there anything that you all do when you hit a rut?

So far I’ve gotten “trim & new protective styles”.

Comment below!