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Professional Overhaul: The 5 Items You Should Have In Your Closet for Dressing Business Professional

Let’s get real: As much as we hate to submit to traditional corporate rules, “dressing the part,” can play a huge role in our success at a company or firm. It can determine if you get another interview. If your superior puts you up for a special project or promotion. If a client will trust you to get the job done. And, it can indicate  if you’re  trustworthy or not. The majority of communication between people is nonverbal, so it is important that your appearance speaks to the role that you’re trying to obtain.

I personally subscribe to the old adage that “If you look good then you’ll feel good.” So, I think that our generation, the much loved and hated millennials, have immense potential, but the fact remains that we need to showcase it. We have to showcase  it in our work ethic, our passion, and in our willingness to play the career game by dressing for the part. There are many individuals in hiring positions that come from a generation of conservative leanings and so, in order to bridge that gap we must dress the part.

Here are the top 5 clothing items you should own as a young professional


  • Black blazer


This item is a staple and should be in your wardrobe if it already isn’t. Black is always classic and acceptably stylish.  And, you can get so much value and use out of this item. For example, you can dress it up with a skirt or pants and turn it into a suit for business professional settings. Pair it with a dress, with denim, or with a skirt for business casual and other everyday looks. You can find this piece in any store and at a variety of price points. But a word of advice: Spend the money on a nice quality one because you’ll certainly get your money’s worth.


  • Dress or suit


Buy a dress or pants/skirt to create an outfit that makes you feel confident and mature. It can’t hurt your chances to look completely poised and polished despite the fact that you may be sweating bullets or nervously fidgeting while trying to emphasize how you’re a qualified candidate.


  • Professional and comfortable shoes


Invest in some durable, comfortable, closed toed shoes. Style-wise, closed toed is a great option for all seasons and once again suitable for a conservative workplace or industry. In terms of comfort, quality does matter because you will hate yourself and cause unnecessary pain and suffering if you go the cheap route. So, really consider how much mobility or walking your position requires and adjust accordingly. Also, no one can freaking tell (or will care really) if you’re re-wearing a pair of shoes.


  • Dress shirts in short or long sleeve (depending on climate or season)


You definitely need to wear something underneath that black blazer or suit you’ve purchased. For greatest versatility, stick to neutral colors or business colors so you can mix and match with ease. Often they’re on-sale in several options and shades, but learn your workplace dress code before you splurge on a bright color or bold pattern. My suggestion for sizing is something that is fitted, i.e. snug enough so that it has a shape without looking sloppy, but may also look good not tucked into pants or a skirt. You should also be able to gesture and move as if you were presenting, so you’re physically most comfortable and thus projecting that comfort into confidence.


  • Professional bag or briefcase


It’s 2016, so this means women and men can carry anything from a briefcase to a satchel. If you’re like me and manage to have too much stuff for a typical purse or bag, do yourself a favor and invest in a nice large tote. There are so many stylish and affordable options that is if you’re willing to research, budget, and spring when the  price is right. Also, nothing looks more unprofessional and frankly immature than not having a place to keep papers (i.e. resume or portfolio), your phone, keys, tablet, laptop, snack, wallet or anything else tidy. Stick to a neutral, simple two tone, or a solid color to avoid looking busy and drawing the eye in a distracting manner. I would also recommend purchasing a bag that has metal grommets to increase the bag’s longevity.

Stay tuned for a list of places to purchase quality professional clothing on a budget!

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5 Hair Care Mistakes Most Naturals Make



Reblog from: DIYHairCareBlog

I’m just going to lay it out for you all, a lot of the information in the natural hair community

can be questionable and have you walking in circles with your hair. Often when you’re newly

natural, it can be hard to know what is meat and what is bones. Here are 5 hair care mistakes

you don’t want to make.

1. Joining Bandwagons– What’s a bandwagon? It’s going out and trying techniques and new hair tools just because others are doing it. Every month there is a new bandwagon; co-washing, no-poo, baggying, Tangle Teezer, and others are all bandwagons. While these techniques can be beneficial; if what you’re doing isn’t broken don’t try to fix it. Try only following techniques that solve a problem you currently have with your hair.

2.Hair Typing– Yes, it’s nice to feel like you’re a part of a group but honestly, hair typing is purely aesthetic. Yes your curls can look like someone elses but, it takes more than knowing your hair type to really figure out what your hair likes and doesn’t like. You can learn a lot from people who don’t have the same hair type as you do.

3. Throwing Away Products That Work– Don’t go and throwaway that “tried and true” leave-in just because, you’ve now learned about mineral oil. Trust me, when you’re having a bad hair day, you’re going to be looking for that tried and true product. Again, if it isn’t broken don’t fix it.

4. Black People, Black Hair, Black Products– Please, kick this notion to the curb. You may have more in common hairwise with someone who is not the same color as you and actually learn some great tips from other curlies. Lots of natural hair ladies use Dove, Suave, Loreal, Aussie Moist, Garnier Fructis, with much success and these aren’t marketed for “black hair”. Just find products that solve the problems you’re facing with your hair.

5. Natural Is Easy As 1-2-3– No, natural hair doesn’t have to be difficult but, we all have our days. Don’t go natural thinking that you won’t have any bad hair days or even months! Natural hair has it’s learning curves.

By keeping the 5 tips above in mind while on your journey it will save you a lot of frustration, there’s is nothing like experiencing excessive breakage or slit ends and having no idea where they came from and how to stop them. If you keep your regimen consistent, you will get consistent results.



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Sex and Natural Hair

Tablets, cream, ointments, herbs, mixtures and even onions! These are some of the measures a natural girl can go through to stimulate hair growth.

All the above mentioned methods stand a strong ground.. But what if there was an even more natural way, another practice, another technique which didn’t require inventing formulas and concoctions!


To what extent are you willing to go in order to naturally stimulate your hair growth?

There is a way which can take place in the privacy of your own bedroom.

Yes, you said it!


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Research shows the hormonal connections between a regular healthy sex lifestyle and hair growth.

Regular sex influences the production of sex hormones such as androgens, which influence hair growth, and endorphins, a feel-good neurotransmitter that impacts both body, mind and soul subsequently promoting healthy hair growth!

A  scalp massage could have done the trick, but you would agree that sex is much more fun! Sexual activity gets your blood flowing, especially near the skin’s surface. In physiological response hair follicles receive more oxygenation and more nourishment ensuring ideal conditions for growth.

Regular sex is an option worth adding to your daily hair routine. But don’t be carried away. Too much of everything may have some unfavourable effects. Too much sexual activity can lead to the unhealthy over-production of testosterone and adrenaline, leading to possible hair loss, especially in men!


Nevertheless, regular sex a is a very justifiable hair growth stimulator. So ladies, it’s time to get our groove and go 200% natural!



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Don’t Fear The Fall: Rise Up& Attack (Motivation)

We often get caught in a downward swirl. Nothing seems to work out as planned, obstacles keep popping up in the least expected moments and it looks as though all forces stand against us. In such scenarios, we give up when the going gets tough.


Fortunately, many renowned personalities remind us that there is no failure except in no longer trying.

But why do some of us fail in the pursuit of dreams and aspirations? Why don’t things work out even when we try? There are a few factors to take into consideration.

  1. Lack of well-defined purpose of life. Not knowing exactly what you want to achieve will get you turning round in circles with no concrete aim to work towards.
  2. Sometimes we do know what we want to achieve, but lack ambition–will-power and self-discipline to move forward without sacrifice. Nothing comes easy and sacrificing is a part of the process which gets us closer to our goal.
  3. That leads us to persistence. You may be a good starter, enthusiastic and zealous, but being a bad finisher is a trait which will keep you stagnant.
  4. Fear stops majority of us from trying to achieve our goals.  Fear of poverty, criticism, taking risks and failing, keep us in our comfort zone and just like it implies, we stay in the same place with little progress.
  5. According to our society, it is seen as credible to become a doctor, a lawyer or any profession of high status. Very often we choose the wrong profession and become somebody we are not. This is a perfect recipe to unhappiness, indifference and dormancy.

If you are going through some tough moments in life, it is time to sit up and get your act together. We are the creators of how we live our lives through the choices we make. No excuses. Take responsibility. Define your purpose of life! Discipline yourself! Be a good finisher! Do not fear the fall, catch the wind and you shall fly! Follow your heart and passion and everything else should naturally fall into place!

Be inspired!



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Beauty 101: How To Prevent Ingrown Hairs or Razor Bumps



Ingrown hair, also known as razor bumps, are a common skin condition, particularly in people whose hair has the tendency to curl back or grow sideways in a hair follicle. The result often looks like acne, consisting of tiny round bumps, some of which have a visible hair trapped inside them. They also can be accompanied by pustules and skin discoloration. Furthermore, they can be painful and itchy as well as cosmetically disfiguring.

Women and men with coarse and/or curly hair are more prone to developing this condition, and it is more commonly seen in the African and African-American population, according to Nada Elbuluk, MD, MSc, assistant professor in the Ronald O. Perelman Department of Dermatology at NYU Langone Medical Center, who also practices at NYU’s Joan H. Tisch Center for Women’s Health.


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Dr. Elbuluk also points out that various types of hair removal — waxing, shaving, plucking and threading — can lead to ingrown hairs.

Coaxing hair out of the “bump” at home by poking or tweezing should be avoided, as this can potentially introduce new bacteria into the follicle and worsen the problem. Ingrown hairs that are seriously irritated and/or infected are best treated by a board-certified dermatologist. A dermatologist can also recommend a regimen of anti-bacterial washes and creams as well as topical retinoids that can help treat the area and prevent future ingrown hairs.

Over the counter products containing benzoyl peroxide, as well as exfoliating ingredients such as glycolic acid and salicylic acid, also can help in the treatment and prevention of ingrown hairs.

“Keeping skin moisturized and exfoliated not only makes it easier to shave, but it can help remove dead skin and hair that may clog the hair follicles, as well as promote hair growth in the right direction,” says Dr. Elbuluk.

Letting hair grow is one option for avoiding the issue of razor bumps. However, if letting hair grow is not an option, Dr. Elbuluk offers some practical tips for dealing with ingrown hairs or razor bumps:

  • Shave in the direction of the hair growth
  • Avoid shaving over the same area multiple times
  • Avoid shaving the hair too close to the skin
  • Shave less often
  • When using a razor blade, make sure the skin is wet before shaving and use amoisturizing shaving cream, gel, or foam while shaving
  • Use of hair-removing creams or clippers instead of blade razors can sometimes helpdecrease the occurrence of ingrown hairs

“One of the worst things to do when having ingrown hair is to continue to shave and remove hair in the affected region,” Dr. Elbuluk advises. “It is best to wait until razor bumps have resolved before going back to shaving or engaging in further hair removal at the site.”

If a person is prone to developing ingrown hairs, Dr. Elbuluk suggests consulting a dermatologist about other options such as laser hair removal or use of a cream which can slow down hair growth.

What methods do you use to prevent ingrown hairs?

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How To Keep It Hot !… Once You Get The Rock!



By: Julie Hunter

If you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage, you understand that every couple goes through their ups and downs. Sometimes however, it can be a little hard to tell which side of the pendulum the current state of your relationship is swaying towards, especially if you find yourself in a bit of a rut.


A rut is not at all indicative of a relationship on the rocks. Usually it’s simply a result of life getting in the way. Taking care of the kids, work, and dealing with everyday stresses can leave the relationship with your loved one to fend for itself. The quickest area to fall by the wayside, more often than not, is your sex life. Of course you can connect with your partner over coffee in the morning or while running errands on the weekends. However, it can be much more difficult to put yourself in the right state of mind for connecting on a more intimate level.


Take a look at some of these tips that you can start utilizing to help better the physical relationship between you and your partner.



Start Outside of the Bedroom

Sex can be both physical and emotional. Making sure that your relationship is strong on both points is crucial to the other. That’s why a lot of the aspects that go into a deep sexual connection are built outside of the bedroom. You’ve probably heard before that you still have to “date” your partner, and this is true. It’s not as simple as just getting food or watching TV together, though. Doing something more adventurous greatly increase your intimacy.


Engaging in new experiences as a couple can increase your intimacy while helping you bond and reconnect in other ways. iVillage discussed the idea, suggesting that taking a trip or trying a new activity together is a bonafide way to rekindle and recharge your romance. They also quoted licensed counselor Hilary Phillips, who said, “Creating happy memories together goes a long way in establishing a couple’s sense of shared meaning.”


Physical Health

After having kids and going through the natural aging process, a women’s pelvic muscles can weaken, especially those utilized during sex. You’ve probably heard about Kegel exercises in the past, but you may have underestimated their ability to increase your sexual experience. Kegel exercises work the muscles of your pelvic floor, which can result in more intense contracts during orgasm. It can also offer a tighter, more encompassing sensation for your partner. The Mayo Clinic offers a guide of how to best identify your Kegel muscles and strengthen them.


You and your partner should also make sure that you see your physicians regularly and address any issues you’re having with a professional. Low sex drive or sexual performance issues can be health related and subsequently regulated with help from your doctor.


Spice Things Up

Of course there are also things you can do in the bedroom to increase your experience. For starters, throughout the day, Your Tango recommends being more aware when you’re around your partner, and reach out to touch or kiss them. Increasing your physical contact will help you feel more connected and can increase your desire for one another later on.


To heat things up in the bedroom, Adam and Eve suggests utilizing a new sex toy to intensify playtime with your partner. It’s a great way to make things even steamier between the sheets. Whether it’s with a discreet finger vibrator or something more adventurous, there are tons of ways you can make it a night to remember. Even something as simple as oil and a sexy massage kit can give your lovemaking a boost.


Over the years, your sex life has probably made its way pretty far down on your list of things that require your attention. However, it’s important to put the effort into physically connecting, as well as emotionally. Once you realize what you’ve been missing out on, the only thing you’ll have trouble with is keeping your hands off one another!

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Soul Clinic

It is said we are what we eat. We can understand this statement literally comparing the state of our body, to what we put into it. Even though they are both very much related, I would like to look at it from a slightly different perspective – Food for the soul. How do we feed our soul? What makes our soul healthy which consequently keeps us happy?



In today’s modern world with all the hustle and bustle, competition and rat race, we tend to ignore the cry of our soul which hungers.  There are 5 things you should incorporate into your daily life to quench that thirst.

It all starts from accepting and acknowledging yourself as an individual. You have your own mind, preferences and ambitions. So the last thing you want to do is follow the crowd. It’s very easy going down the stream, for he who is carried by it, need not row, but be warned, you may land in places you never wanted to. It’s much more rewarding rowing your own boat.

Smile and laugh more often. It will make you and everyone around you happy! Smiling and laughing send out positive vibes, attracting positive people and curing a multitude of ills. Keep Smiling.

Giving. It’s not about how much you give, but how much love you put into giving. We rise by giving and lifting others. Some of the most famous minds knew this:

Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.” ~ Albert Einstein

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.” ~ Zig Ziglar

“From what we get, we can make a living; what we give, however, makes a life.” ~ Arthur Ashe

The power of giving never disappoints.

Being caught up in the buzzing life of the city, we tend to complain about almost everything. Being grateful makes us appreciate the things most important in life and humbles the ego.

A man becomes what he constantly thinks about. So try to have a positive and determined mindset. Vibrate with positive thoughts, turn your goals into an obsession and witness your life change!


Life is a gift which should be enjoyed. Let’s not get lost by becoming  victims of the consumer society. Set your own goals, smile, give back in life, be grateful and think positive. These practices are starters which get us ready for the main course and allows us to enjoy the dessert. Food for the soul.

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The Bigger The Better?

As a teenager, I had always wanted hair like Scary Spice from the girls band “Spice Girls”! Big, thick and most importantly curly!


With my permed hair at the time, little did I know that deep in my roots was the answer to Thick, kinky curly hair. Out of ignorance, I had my hair texturized into “Jerry Curls”!

Gone are those pitiful days.

Today, I’d like to share with you a few tips on how I get my hair into a big curly afro!

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  1. Start with shampooing and deep conditioning your hair (some find it a good moment for a detangling session).
  2. Towel dry then add your favourite leave-in conditioner (for others this is a good time to detangle hair).
  3. Divide your hair into two sections. With your head facing the floor, take one section and braid a two-strand cornrow up to the top of your head, then finish off with a three-strand braid. Do the same to the second half. This is very important for a full curly afro look
  4. When your hair is at least 70% dry, carefully undo the two braided sections.
  5. Finger style and then use a diffuser to totally dry your hair into position.
  6. The final styling step requires an afro pick comb. Pick your hair from the roots to make your afro as big as you desire.

These 5 simple steps should give you this full curly afro look. In my opinion, the BIGGER the afro, the BETTER! How big do you like yours?

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Ask Felicia: Are We Over The Natural Hair Scene? #FeliciaFriday


Written By Felicia Leatherwood

I’ve been talking to several naturalist’s and bloggers and some of them are wondering what’s next for the natural hair movement?  After all it rose up so strong and proud, so some are wondering where do we go from here?
I have to be honest, when I stepped on the hairstylist scene back in 2000, natural hair was more of a trend and it wasn’t as creative as it is now.  There where more men rocking cornrows and coil out’s than women because the women were still in the “feeling sexy with a weave” state of mind, but we adored our black men with their braids and flat twist and afros.  We thought that when Allen Iverson hit the court, he was the finest thing out there and every woman who found him sexy wanted to braid his hair!
Fast forward 14years later and there is a whole community of natural hair wearers, but this time it came with a twist…not only did the women show up to say “We are not going to allow any type of product of chemical to touch our hair,” we also showed up to empower, support, send love and occasionally criticize each other!  We showed up with attitude, flare, chicness and style.
So now that most of the naturalistas have the hang of what works for their hair and they have been to all of the meet-up and chats and now have a ton of samples to choose from as well as tutorials on YouTube, Facebook and Instagram, women are asking what next?
Where do we go from here?  Well I believe some of us will be one with our natural hair and some of us won’t!   As things calm down and the smoke of excitement clears and everyone goes back to their mutual corners to look for the next best thing.  I think we will see the beauty in it all!  We will see women that just want to grow their hair no matter what they use, some women will still be product junkies, some will go back to wigs and weaves or relaxers and some will not care either way.  But mostly, I think where we are headed next is a feeling place that can’t be duplicated or taken away…something called confidence!  Out of everything the natural hair community  gave us, it was a sense of PRIDE and CONFIDENCE that we gravitated to more than anything!


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Confessions of a Passively Devoted Natural

I was very curious as to how long it would be for me to mildly take care of my hair before my hair started showing that I was only mildly being taken care of.

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My natural hair journey began as my child, I was giving it constant attention – I mean an overabundance of attention, multiple hours daily. As life has begun to pick up and I’ve gotten busy with internships, committees, clubs, dance teams, jobs, school work, etc. it has begun hard (hard being an incredible understatement) to keep up with my hair. Even now, with it being summertime and my being home from school for the summer – I imagined a life with daily treatments, weekly deep conditions, daily co-washes etc. but I have not at all been able to achieve that. As unfortunate as it is and as much as I don’t want to believe it, I think my hair is finally suffering from the neglect it has been facing. I went from spraying water day, night and in-between to soaking it while in the shower once, sometimes twice, a day. Using leave-in conditioner everyday to sometimes throwing coconut oil in my hair after I got out of the shower.

I have hit a wall in my natural hair journey. I’m not sure what it’s from. I still love my hair so much – I wouldn’t perm it for anything in the world, I love the journey and every curl, but I just can’t find the motivation that I once had. I think my hair has stopped growing as much as it was – even though I maintain a completely healthy diet, but also shrinkage could just be getting me down.


Is there anything that you all do when you hit a rut?

So far I’ve gotten “trim & new protective styles”.

Comment below!