Hey curly girls! Today’s shared post is from Nyasha Gowara of Blissfulcurls.com. In it, she talks about how you can best love and learn to appreciate your hair for what it is and stop focusing on what it is not. It’s an important lesson that we all need to learn and be reminded of often, so HAPPY READING y’all! Have a great weekend 🙂
By Nyasha Gowara of Blissful Curls.com:
I am a HUGE fan of self love, which, depending on how you were raised as a kid, is not something that is really emphasized. So, when it comes to loving your own natural hair and not having curl envy, it is something that we ALL need to learn in order to grow longer hair.
I sure you are wondering, “Is this something that we really need to touch on?” I am thinking yeessss !!! But I am speaking from my perspective, after years of curl envy and me attempting to beat my natural hair into submission. All the while drooling over other ladies luscious, beautiful locks of hair.
As a reformed curl envier, I have learned that, there is a better way of getting amazing looks from your natural hair, by embracing what looks good on it rather than trying to getting it look like someone else’s. It sounds so simple, but it is amazing how challenging it can be to learn and embrace the most simple truths.
I remember when I first went natural, there were not a lot of natural haired ladies or gents out there on Youtube or even bloggers who had the hair length that I was salivating over and dreaming of having. I didn’t see those who had a curl pattern similar to mine.
So there I was, looking at all these lovely ladies whose hair curl was way wavier than mine, (while mine is has a much tighter curl). I was wondering why on earth my hair could not do what their’s did, namely wash and go’s – my hair does not like these bad boys. In fact if I want some tangles, knots and some serious shrinkage then, this is what I need to do. – NOT!!
How To Start Loving Natural Hair
So how did I embrace my own hair type? Well, I found things about it that I did like and I was thankful for them. Now, this may sound strange, but I started being thankful for my hair, like the fact that it is so thick and that my hairline is intact. May sound strange, but the more I found I liked about my hair and the more I objectively tried hairstyles to see if they worked for me and my hair (rather than comparing the results to other ladies). The more I did this, the more I came to love it.
Let’s be honest, you most likely can grow your natural hair without loving it and by comparing it with others. But it is more than likely that you will not appreciate it’s unique beauty or enjoy doing it.
So why not enjoy your hair? I mean it is yours and there are many ladies and gents out there, who unfortunately have no hair due to traction alopecia, illness or an accident.
Therefore beauties, take the time to appreciate and love your natural hair and in no time it will flourish.
Hope this helps beauties…
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