What is something we can all say we’ve felt when indecisive? Confused? Conflicted? Lost? Unsure? Maybe these terms are starting to sound familiar.
When faced with big and small decisions, these feelings are common and should be expected. Change and transition don’t come without an element of fear, but this isn’t a bad thing.
Being afraid primarily helps us remember what is most important to us. Fear of making decisions or change should not immobilize you—it should steer you in the direction you need to go in.
- Make a decision.
Seriously, just make a decision. I know it seems like an oversimplified answer to a big problem, but you must realize that feeling indecisive won’t just go away overnight. It “goes away” when you make a decision.
Some people are thinking right now “but what if I make the wrong decision?” when they actually mean, “what happens if my decision takes me somewhere I didn’t want to go?”
This leads to the next thing to do when indecisive:
- Realize that your life is full of possibilities
I challenge you to reconsider how you think about making “wrong decisions.” Now don’t get me wrong, there are such things as bad decisions. For instance, committing a crime or participating in something that you know will negatively impact someone, is a definite bad decision. That’s not what I’m talking about here.
The real beauty of life is how full of possibilities it is. Each day we make hundreds, maybe even thousands, of decisions–from how we interact with people and the route we take to work to where we do our shopping. Believe it or not, all of these decisions are in constant play with each other to influence your present and future.
I like to think of it this way. Say you went to a frozen yogurt place and picked between two flavors. Now you just get to enjoy the taste of one of the flavors and not the other. Yes, you’ll be missing out in that moment, but you got a great, or maybe not so great, experience out of that one flavor. Does this mean you made the wrong decision and should have picked the other flavor? No! The phrase “you live and you learn” is popular for a reason y’all.
- Embrace uncertainty
Would life be half as enjoyable if we all knew what to expect from it, or if we all stayed in our comfort zones? I’m pretty confident that it wouldn’t be.
Living predictably seems like an incredibly monotonous existence. The best experiences and ideas happen when we break out of routine and try something new.
So the next time you find yourself feeling indecisive (because it will happen), don’t worry. Realize that those feelings are a part of life and keep it moving.